If knowing what to do isn’t stopping your spiral, it’s not a discipline problem.
And you can’t force your way to the brilliant, embodied, business boss you know you are capable of being.
For the creative big feelers who are tired of fighting themselves.
Hi! I'm Sarah, a Neurodivergent
Business Strategist
If you were like me, you’ve tried every planner, timer, and productivity hack on the internet, and you’re still burnt out. You probably think you need more discipline. Maybe. But first you need structure that supports your nervous system, not fries it.
Many years ago, in a land far away (Texas), there was a burnt out (and super pretty) executive assistant who left her cushy office job to become a massage therapist. That was me. My body was begging for regulation and I had no idea at the time. After having kids (2) I went back to work and burnt out again. Luckily, this time, I used my hyperfocus skills on neuroscience and anatomy and my love of peer-reviewed studies (and so many books by so many great authors) and put together a plan for myself so I could work and live in balance. Living without constantly being “behind”, but with flow and ease. That plan changed everything for me.
That plan is The HappiAssist Method™.
Chaos goblin? Craft hoarder? Big feeler? Quicker to react than respond? Impulsive? Time management issues? Perfectionism so intense that it stops you from doing the thing? Shame spirals when you can’t do the thing, so you ignore the thing until it becomes a THING? Oh wow. Me too.
Have you ever been told you should be less “stressed,” but no one can explain how? How do people get everything done without a 24-hour all-nighter before a looming deadline? Isn’t life just an endless cycle of stress, crash, recover, repeat?
Maybe after a lifetime of believing you were somehow defective because things that seem effortless for others just don’t click for you, you’ve realized you’re neurodivergent, ADHD, Autistic, AuDHD, or somewhere on that shimmering spectrum.
You’re learning about masking, rejection sensitivity, and demand avoidance. You waffle between perfectionism and freeze, or maybe those are the same thing. When you do get things done, it’s frantic and exhausting. The memes are funny, but they aren’t helping you build the life or business you want.
Everywhere you look, someone’s promising the next magic fix. A planner. A pomodoro timer. A new productivity method. Your shoulders tighten before you even click, because you’ve already tried every app, spreadsheet, and accountability buddy under the sun.
You belong here
I once held onto a Netflix DVD for two years. (Remember when we rented those and snail-mailed them back??) Yes, I had to have a multi-dvd rental plan because of this one I could NOT return. The envelope was lost, then it got stuck in the back of the cabinet.
Friends would find it, ask me about it, then eventually shush each other and slide it back into the cabinet like it was cursed. My then-boyfriend finally drove me to a blue USPS mailbox. I dropped it in, and my whole body went whoooosh. Relief.
Fifteen years later, I can still feel it.
What stuck wasn’t the DVD. It was the shame.
Not just I messed up shame but the kind that quietly asks what does this say about me? The kind that turns a small mistake into evidence.
I didn’t hurt anyone. I didn’t break a rule that mattered. Almost no one was murdered.
That moment (and the years of guilt that followed over something so small) taught me something I didn’t yet have language for: once shame enters the picture, even the tiniest task can become a threat to your nervous system.
It’s no longer a stupid un-returned DVD. It’s a story of failure as a human, a fundamental flaw in my design.
Especially when you’ve spent years learning how to read the room, soften your edges, explain yourself just enough, and stay palatable.
Stack that on top of a lifetime of masking, over-functioning, smoothing things over, and staying likable. Especially when there are so many rules! Rules standing like invisible, nonsensical guards, which somehow you are expected to follow perfectly, and suddenly you’re surrounded by your own versions of Netflix DVDs everywhere you look.
No wonder starting feels impossible.
No wonder your stomach drops.
No wonder your thoughts start spinning.
I’m a founder, a creative, and a late-diagnosed human who spent years believing I just needed to try harder.
I don’t believe that anymore.
I don’t work above or ahead of my clients. I work alongside them. I help create structure that feels supportive instead of punitive, and I help build trust between your nervous system and you. Not by asking you to become more acceptable, but by making room for who you already are.
Just so you knowI love systems that feel like exhaling
I distrust anything that claims to work for everyone
I am equal parts chaos goblin and careful curator
I believe starting imperfectly is an advanced skill (that I’m still mastering)
I will choose sustainability over hustle
Hey look! It’s me. Protesting ICE with bad grammar and a smile.
At HappiAssist, I provide neurodivergent business strategy and support by blending practical structure, nervous system informed planning, and deep respect for our differences and our humanness.
My work is grounded in science, especially neuroscience and nervous system regulation, because understanding why something feels hard changes how we approach it.
Alongside that, I leave room for intuition and reflection. Tools like tarot, meditation, and play are not about prediction or answers. They are ways of listening, noticing patterns, and accessing inner wisdom that don’t always speak in checklists or spreadsheets. They also engage those core ‘play’ muscles which I try to weave into whatever I do. If it’s not fun, what’s the point?
No hacks. No hustle. Just systems that stick.
This is a queer-owned, neurodivergent affirming, trauma-aware space.
I believe structure should feel like support, not surveillance. And success should feel like coming home to yourself.
I care deeply about pacing, consent, clarity, and holding a light for each business I work with. I reject productivity culture that treats exhaustion as a badge of honor.
HOW I SUPPORT NEURODIVERGENT ENTREPRENEURS
What this can look like in practice
In a long-term partnership with a creative founder, the work was built around relief. They came in burnt out and anxious, bracing against their own business and unsure how to grow without tipping back into collapse.
Rather than forcing productivity, we slowed the whole system down and worked directly with their nervous system. Using neuroscience as a guide, we tracked where tension lived, where energy was draining, and where structure could feel like support instead of demand. We cleared what was tangled, reinforced what mattered, and shaped a way of working that felt steadier, kinder, and easier to move inside.
As pressure eased, creativity returned. Ideas rose without forcing. Confidence followed. They moved through an intense season without burning out, stepped into more visible roles, and came out the other side feeling lighter with others telling them they were ‘glowing’.
The return on investment was ease, creative momentum, and growth that did not require self‑abandonment.
If this space feels familiar, or like a place you can finally exhale, you’re welcome here. I’ve spent years decoding the nervous system, and dedicated my life to living in harmony with my body and my values.